The Perfect Man For Me

 Life is

Life is

I have found

The perfect man

For me


He’s cute and charismatic But that’s not the point


What makes him perfect

For me

Is that

He lives 833 miles away

He’s not that into me

I can dream about him Anytime


I need not



A relationship



Although I might say that we are dating regularly. About once a year. But he doesn’t call me, so I still need not fear a relationship.

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I Know Why She Jumped Off the Bridge


Brilliant afternoon sun danced on Sedona’s red rocks as I rode with a friend through Oak Creek Canyon for a meditation and writing retreat. As we crossed the Midgley Bridge, my friend said “A woman jumped off Wednesday—third one this year.” She shook her head. “I don’t know why anyone would do that.”


“I know why she jumped off the bridge,” I said. I have lived in that dark place before, planning and fantasizing my escape. She asked why, but in that moment my words couldn’t convey the misery and desperation that leads someone to throw it all away.


It’s true what they say about suicide—it’s not a sudden, impulsive, reckless choice. It’s a well-considered decision born from a pain so long-standing and so intense that the will to live is worn away like the walls of the Grand Canyon.

"More people die by suicide at the Golden Gate Bridge than at any other site in the world."

“More people die by suicide at the Golden Gate Bridge than at any other site in the world.”


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My Wildest Dreams

What if your dreams all came true? I challenge you to consider that they already have. What we “wish” for is actually what we think about the most. So if we obsessively ponder our problems all day, we are sending our vital energy into re-creating those problems. If we constantly focus our thoughts on the anxiety of an uncertain future, we miss what’s happening right now. Life is right now.


But what about those Wild Dreams? How do we make them come true if we’re always caught up in the moment?


Manifesting is a bit mysterious. It begins with an intention. I talk a lot with my yoga classes about creating specific visions of how we want our lives to be. Before or after we meditate we take a moment to experience our most cherished feeling, or to picture our ideal lives, including the sounds, smells, tastes, sensations and sights that bring it to life. I like to experience a feeling of joy growing in my heart and tingling through my whole body. From this place it’s easy to imagine myself doing the things I love, spending time with my dear ones, surrounded by beauty, and contributing my work happily to the world.


The Realm of Infinite Possibilities


The interesting thing about intentions is that they don’t always manifest exactly the way we picture. Sometimes they manifest in amazing ways we could have never imagined. Other times we get something different, but it gives us the feeling we were seeking in a better way.

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